tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6394593369099711178.post7053931856858148180..comments2024-03-18T03:18:23.620-04:00Comments on Memoirs for my children: Social Securityruthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15293058709021665140noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6394593369099711178.post-36527614846324326612012-02-26T20:35:15.061-05:002012-02-26T20:35:15.061-05:00Yes, I think about it. I try to come up with a pl...Yes, I think about it. I try to come up with a plan where we will all end up living at least in the same metropolitan area. But my plans usually fail. I say, "We should sit down and talk about what city we'd all like to settle in, where you can all get the jobs you'd like."<br /><br />Our insurance is so bad right now, I can't even imagine what healthcare will be like when I am old and even less able to navigate the paperwork and bureaucracy, as well as sicker than I am now. I try to learn as much about natural healthcare as I can, and then just avoid going to the doctor, hoping that in the end I'll die suddenly, without a long, expensive, complicated hospital/nursing home experience.<br /><br />My own parents... I have missed them so much. I really do not like living so far away from them. After we bought our land, I dreamed and dreamed of building a house with a beautiful single level apartment for them with a walk-out to the back yard. I wanted to have them live with me and to be able to take care of them in their old age. <br /><br />But I don't think that's going to happen. It doesn't look like we'll be building at all, due to circumstances that we've been waiting on for almost 2 years now. And even if we were blessed to be able to build the home I dream about, I doubt if my parents would move so far from their native home.<br /><br />I have a fear that I will outlive my husband by a long time, based on family genetics. If that happens, I surely hope one of my children will take me in.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093621296828810512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6394593369099711178.post-57720954186410233122012-02-26T17:51:13.588-05:002012-02-26T17:51:13.588-05:00I am such an idealist. I agree with you about the ...I am such an idealist. I agree with you about the Catholic stance on birth control. On life issues, I strongly lean toward dignity of all persons from natural conception to natural death and I think that that idea is strongly expressed in the Catholic church's theology of the body. <br /><br />I am also an idealist about elder care and I had previously hoped that my parents and my mother-in-law would live with us if it came down to them not being able to care for themselves. Now that seems very impractical. With the kind of specialized medical care necessary for seniors now, as well as all the pharmaceuticals, it is hard for a couple to take care of their own parents on the medical front. It would also be very hard, if not impossible for them to support elderly parents financially. I don't know the answer and I am just as sick at heart about our society's treatment of the elderly as I am about the treatment of children but perhaps with the elderly, an overhaul of the healthcare system is the place to start. <br /><br />We are not at this spot yet with our parents but my mother-in-law did have to be hospitalized twice this year and we are going to be facing some hard choices at some point.<br /><br />That reminds me of another obstacle we face in our country. Families live so far apart. My mil's children are all scattered in different states and so could not all be involved in her care as would be possible if we lived nearer. <br /><br />It is all very complicated and I am not sure of the steps we can take to get our individual families more in line with our visionary ideals but it is something that I think about quite often.Hope T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07861626818618433758noreply@blogger.com